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AUTUMN 2013 WORKSHOP


BITCHY FRIENDS AND UNCOMFORTABLE RELATIONSHIPS


Why do I keep friends with some people who behave badly to me?


We all have experienced those uncomfortable situations when someone who is supposed to be our friend offends or even humiliates us, but we insist on keeping that friendship. We tend to justify or even ignore that friend’sbehaviour; either we have been friends for many years; or we want to think that his or her bad attitude was only a mistake and that it will not happen again (but it keeps happening); or we are proud to be friends with that person and we think that we need that connection. Sometimes this situation can too far, as far as being cheated or betrayed.


The fact is that we are afraid to confront these kinds of relationships, we are afraid of being lonely, or we do not want to face the fact that we feed those uncomfortable bonds because of our own egotistic insecurities. Recognizing that a ‘friend’ is not a real friend, that our Shadow is playing tricks with us, and that we can get rid of those ties, is a painful, but rich process.


When it comes to relationships, most therapies and theories focus on partnerships, authority, parental and love relationships; very few, or none, explore the dynamics of secondary associations such as friends, brothers, neighbours or colleagues.


This workshop proposes and understanding of the mechanisms and the reasons we unconsciously have to depend on uncomfortable relationships. We propose a way to transform and prevent those patterns.


These are the themes we will explore:


A)  KINDS OF REALTIONSHIPS


-learned patterns in childhood trough parents


-from brothers and sisters to friends


-love and compensation


B) LOVE AND POPULARITY


-what is that thing called ego?


-I need mirrors


C) THE PHASE OF THE MIRROR


-brief account of identity theories


-Jacques Lacan and Francoise Dolto; two different perspectives about the phase of the mirror (about how the baby discovers and creates his own image)


D) WHAT ASTROLOGY, ALCHEMY AND CABBALA SAY ABOUT MINOR RELATIONSHIPS?


E) MYTHS, LITERATURE AND CINEMA ON THE THEME


-two plays of Shakespeare: Richard II and Timon of Athens


-King Arthur and his Knights


-In the Company of Men (among other movies)


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Supplementation:


As you have noticed, all the themes of relationships are associated to the house of air in the natal chart.


Brothers and sisters, cousins, neighbours and classmates, are found in the third house, here we start building patterns of friendships and relating with others. I call this the experience of proximity or contiguity.


In the seventh house we learn how to build relationships, but we are already dragging the patterns learned in the previous house. I call this house, the experience of complemetarity.


In the eleventh house we learn how to integrate ourselves in groups, social nets. Here we experience being part of society, of somehting bigger that ourselves.


The IV and V house are related to the ego and the sense of identity, that is why we have to explore the pahse of the mirror. The houses of fire (identity) are always in opposition to the houses of aire (social activities).

2013秋ワークショップ概要の原文